Are you stressed? Are your words and actions increasing anxiety in not only you but also your dad? It’s a common issue with family caregivers. You’re stressed and struggling. Even if you don’t mean to give off a negative vibe, you are and your dad notices. He may start to blame himself and feel like a failure. It’s time to change this.
How to Stay Positive When You Feel Negative
One of the hardest parts of being a caregiver is keeping a positive attitude when you’re down. If you get up and just can’t find any way to show a positive side, change the daily routine. Take your dad out. A change of scenery may help. Spend a day at the beach listening to the surf or go to a nature preserve and spot birds together.
Stop and Rewind
If you realize you’re getting testy or anxious, stop and rewind. Apologize for snapping and tell your dad you just need a minute to breathe and reset. He’s human. He’ll understand and has likely lost his cool from time to time.
Whatever you need to do to change the mood, do it. Put on music and dance. Tell him you need to go outside for a walk and see if he wants to join you. Take the dog if he has one.
Take a Couple Days Away
If you can afford it, you could get away for an overnight stay or a long weekend. Pack a bag and any supplies you need, talk to your family members about your plans, and head out. If you can leave your dad behind, go for it. If not, there are still ways to have fun and bring him along.
Go to a spa where others will pamper you for a change. Bring your dad for his own spa treatments or schedule him for a fun activity while you head to the spa. You could set him up with a lesson with a golf pro or have him go on on a bus tour while you’re busy.
Do a Fun Event Together
If you enjoy a cold beer, book the two of you on a brewery bus tour. These tours are found in many cities and have you sitting back and enjoying beers in different breweries. Someone else handles the driving. There are dozens of other trips out there where a tour guide shows you the city and handles the driving for you.
It may be time to step away. Let a professional help your dad with daily activities. Work on reducing your stress and making moments with your dad lighthearted and fun. Senior care services do just that. Let a senior care aide help with meals, personal care, and housekeeping, and you focus on fun outings, rainy day games, and movie nights.