Caregiving is full of situations that can make you feel angry very quickly. There are paperwork problems, frustrating family members, and all sorts of other bureaucratic red tape that might have you seeing red. How you cope is really important.
Check that You’re Meeting Your Needs
There are plenty of reasons that you can become genuinely angry as a caregiver, but if you’re hungry, not sleeping well, or otherwise not getting your needs met, you might have a shorter fuse than usual. If you’re angry a lot, it’s a good idea to sit down for a minute and ask yourself what you really need to be doing for yourself. Some of these little changes can help you to get a better grip on your emotions, including anger.
Look for Some Way to Burn off Excess Energy
For some people, anger can manifest as energy that you really can’t do much with at the time. But if you find a way to burn off that excess energy, you’re doing something to expend that energy in a way that isn’t destructive. Exercising is a great way to burn off that anger energy. You might find that regular exercise helps you to managing what you’re feeling every day, not just on the days when you’re feeling easily angered.
Talk to a Friend or to Another Caregiver
Sometimes what you really need to be able to do is to talk to someone about what you’re feeling and why you’re feeling that way. A friend that you trust can be a wonderful sounding board, as can other caregivers. If you haven’t been able to meet other caregivers, consider joining a support group. They can help you to vent and can give you tips that help you with all sorts of situations, including managing anger.
Take Some Breaks from Caregiving as Often as You Can
Finally, it’s important that you’re taking time away from your caregiving responsibilities when you need to do so. That can be a difficult thing for caregivers to do, especially if they feel they don’t have many options. Hire homecare providers or work out a schedule with other family members that allows you to take time away. If you don’t, you might find yourself angry more often than you want to be.
Remember that you’re a human being and that emotions like anger might not be what you want to feel, but it’s perfectly normal to do so. Look at what is making you angry and do what you can to resolve it. Otherwise, your own self-care plan is going to be what helps you cope.