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Being Willing to Apologize When Caregiver Stress Gets the Best of You

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Caregiver stress can be one of the most difficult issues that you face in your care journey with your elderly loved ones. Studies have shown that adult children who take on the role of being a primary caregiver for their aging parents are far more likely to experience high levels of stress, as well as the various mental, emotional, cognitive, and physical consequences of that stress, than adults of the same age who do not have that role. You are even more likely to experience stress if you are caring for your aging parents as well as your own children, putting you in the so-called “sandwich generation”. While you do many things to help you reduce and manage the stress in your life, sometimes you might an especially difficult day and the stress could get the most of you, ending in a unpleasant situation between you and a loved one.

Anger, irritability, a short temper, and a tendency to lash out to an irrational degree are common symptoms of stress, but no matter how common they are it does not make it any easier when those symptoms bubble up and you find yourself getting into an argument with your parent, yelling at your children, or saying terrible things to your spouse. Moments later you will feel the regret and know that it was simply the stress that pushed you to the edge. At that moment, it is time to apologize and get yourself back on track.

Apologizing to someone is often the most difficult thing that you can do. People by nature do not like to admit when they are wrong, and it can be embarrassing to discuss your own poor behavior. Simply ignoring what happened and not discussing it, however, will only make the situation worse. Eventually the hurt will come out, and you could be dealing with damaged relationships. Taking the time to apologize can help to heal the hurt that occurred and put you back in an emotional place where you can work on your own stress levels again and focus on improving your outlook and your health.

 

Use these tips to help you apologize when caregiver stress gets the best of you:

  • Apologize freely. Do not expect the other person to forgive you immediately or for your relationship to immediately be fine again. Apologizing is not about the other person reciprocating, it is about you offering your apology and expressing your regret. This is a great relief and will ease your anxiety and your guilt so you can move forward.
  • Be specific. Do not just say “I am sorry” and move on. Take the time to explain why you are sorry. Acknowledge that what you said or did was hurtful and apologize for causing pain or anger.
  • Apologize for behaviors, not emotions. You have the right to your own emotions and thoughts, and you do not need to apologize for them. If the situation truly was a problem, make sure that you stand up for yourself by apologizing for your behaviors, but not for being upset. You are not condoning anyone’s behavior, you are simply asking that they forgive you for yours.

 

If you are considering hiring caregiver services in Wooster, Ohio, call the caring staff at Central Star Home Health at (419) 610-2161.  Providing services for families in Mansfield, Lexington, Bellville, Mt. Gilead, Loudonville, Crestline, Galion, Shelby, Ashland, Wooster, and the surrounding areas.

 

Stephen Sternbach

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