Just because your senior needs your help that doesn’t mean that you’re automatically right all the time as far as she’s concerned. In fact, there are probably going to be some times that you as her caregiver have to put your foot down and have some difficult talks about what’s going to happen next. Neither of you might enjoy this, but it’s still necessary to hash things out.
Bring Notes and Reminders
Tough discussions sometimes mean that you’re nervous or that you feel pressured. If that’s the case, it might be a good idea to bring some notes and reminders with you. Depending on the topic of the conversation, this might be a talk you and your senior don’t want to keep having over and over again. Getting everything handled in one go is a plus.
Patience Is a Big Virtue
If you’re feeling impatient or rushed, it might be wise to postpone the talk. You’re probably going to need to bring every little bit of your patience along for this talk. It’s not easy to bring up topics that you know aren’t popular or likely to be appreciated. Take a deep breath and remember patience.
Be Firm, but Respectful
Your job as your senior’s caregiver is to make sure that she’s cared for in the best ways possible. But that doesn’t mean that she always agrees with what you’re recommending. You may find that you need to be firm in your opinions, but still maintain a level of respect for your elderly family member as a person. That said, your senior’s point of view on this is important, too, which is why you’re talking to her and getting her opinion.
Try to Listen More than You Talk
You’re there to lead the conversation and it’s probably happening because you brought it up, but that doesn’t mean that you’re the only one who has something to say. Try to listen to your senior more than you talk, even if you have a lot to share with her. This can be difficult, especially if she’s feeling stubborn and doesn’t want to have this conversation at all. Letting her know that you’re there and you’re listening can still be powerful.
Difficult conversations sometimes happen for you as a caregiver. No matter what the topic is, you and your aging family member can still come to some sort of compromise, even if it’s temporary.